7 Ramadan Rules For Unmarried Couples

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Although it’s impermissible for Muslims to date conventionally, that does not disregard the fact that unmarried Muslim couples still exist all around the world. But during the holy month of Ramadan, these unmarried Muslim couples should try to minimize their sinful acts, keeping them to a minimum (and stop them completely if possible). Those who wish to do so can by following these Ramadan rules for unmarried couples. 

Table of Contents:

1. No Kissing, Hugging, Or Touching (Day or Night Time)
2. No Parties
3. No Flirting
4. Wear Modest Clothing
5. Dates and hanging out should be kept to a minimum
6. Prayers are the priority in Ramadan
7. Can’t miss a single day of fasting for non-essential reasons

1- No Kissing, Hugging, Or Touching (Day or Night Time)

Muslims only fast for a specific amount of time during a day in Ramadan, from sunrise to sunset. Married couples should keep intimate acts till after sunset when they break their fast during Ramadan. The reason behind that is because their relationship is legitimate and halal, allowing them the freedom to kiss, hug, or engage in other intimate acts.

Is this the case for unmarried couples? Are they allowed to engage in physical intimacy as well? No, this is not the case for unmarried couples.

In Islam, couples in an unmarried relationship aren’t legitimate. It is prohibited to be in an unmarried relationship. Consequently, this means that they aren’t allowed to be physically intimate during any time of the year, as it is a sin.

However, do all unmarried couples follow this rule? No, they don’t. Unmarried Muslim couples all around the world still tend to engage in frequent physically intimate acts. While this is considered a sin under all circumstances, couples trying to minimize sinful acts should refrain from physical intimacy during the holy month of Ramadan.

While married couples are allowed to be physically intimate after fasting, unmarried couples are still not. This means that it doesn’t matter if it’s night or day, they should refrain from physical intimacy altogether during the holy month. (source)

Learn more about Islams view on modern relationship and dating.

2- No Parties

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Unmarried Muslim couples often go to parties as a form of entertainment. But what are the type of parties that we’re referring to? These parties include any party where people engage in sinful acts such as drinking, illegitimate physical contact etc. (Learn more about Halal & Haram Sex Acts here for a deep dive into our full analysis of permissible and impermissible sexual acts).

They’re extremely widespread throughout the world. But, even if a couple wrongfully tends to enjoy these parties and go to them a lot, they should refrain from going to them at all during the holy month (and should consider quitting them asap if possible).

3- No Flirting

Is it even okay to have a conversation with someone from the opposite gender? According to Dar Al Ifta, It’s generally permissible to do so under certain conditions (source). However, flirting during a conversation is impermissible by all means.

An unmarried couple is likely to have started their relationship as a result of excessive flirting. Which could be risky as things may escalate which may lead to more sinful acts.

This isn’t permissible throughout the entire year, especially because it’s impermissible to be in an unmarried relationship, to begin with, but during the holy month of Ramadan specifically. For unmarried couples, it’s best to abstain from flirting. (source)

4- Wear Modest Clothing

It’s well known that, in general, Muslims should be modest. This is irrespective of whether the Muslim in question is a man or a woman. They should be modest either way through both their acts, speech and their physical appearance. 

What is modest clothing? Modest clothing is clothing that doesn’t reveal much skin. This includes garments such as Abayas and other loose forms of clothing. However, a common misconception is that this only applies to women – it’s a misconception for a reason, it’s false. 

Men should wear modest clothing too. They should refrain from wearing see-through clothing that shapes the Awrah. A person’s Awrah is the intimate parts of their body that shouldn’t be exposed (source).

Although a lot of unmarried couples tend to wear clothing that isn’t modest, such as shorts and short skirts, they should try at least during the holy month of Ramadan to wear modest clothing.

5- Dates and hanging out should be kept to a minimum

Even though it’s impermissible to be in an unmarried relationship, those who do so typically go on dates. During these dates, the unmarried couple is usually somewhat physically intimate. In addition, flirting with one another. These acts during dates are considered impermissible in Islam. 

Although they likely go on numerous dates throughout the year, it’s preferable that they avoid hanging out and going on dates throughout the holy month of Ramadan.

By keeping dates and hanging out to a minimum during Ramadan, the couple is minimizing their participation in sinful acts.

6- Prayers are the priority in Ramadan

Although this should be the case throughout the whole year, during Ramadan, a Muslim should prioritize their relationship with god irrespective of their relationship status. 

Can being in an unmarried relationship affect that? Yes. It can. As previously mentioned, unmarried Muslim couples might go to parties, frequently go on dates, etc. The nature of their relationship is likely to result in missing prayers – which should not be the case.

They should focus on and prioritize praying during the holy month, which is undoubtedly one of the most important acts of worship in Islam.

7- Can’t miss a single day of fasting for non-essential reasons

During the holy month of Ramadan, Muslims are to refrain from eating or drinking and engaging in other specific activities from dawn till sunset. Muslims all around the world fast. 

Do all Muslims have to fast? Well, those who are physically capable have to. What does those who are physically capable mean? Well, there are a few exemptions to fasting – a valid reason for not fasting could include menstruating, illness, traveling, old age, etc. These are considered essential reasons for someone to miss a fast.

It is a sin to not fast during Islam if the reason behind doing so is non-essential. But what counts as a non-essential reason? laziness, missing a fast to go party, to go on a date, etc. 

It’s mandatory that, during the holy month of Ramadan, the individuals in a relationship not miss a day of single fasting for non-essential reasons.

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